LADIES KNOW YOUR WORTH!
This subject is very dear to my heart as many women struggle with their self-worth. We continuously ask ourselves, am I good enough? The need to feel accepted and needed has led some to be entangled in toxic relationships. As women, we often define ourselves by our looks and what others expect of us because we want it all: the perfect family, the perfect career, etc.
I once met a teenage girl at the university and got into a conversation with her. She said she needed a job to earn more money to add to what she gets as pocket money. So, I asked her what she wanted to do with the money as she was seventeen. To my shock, she said she wanted to use the money to get more clothes as she doesn’t want to repeat clothes to her classes because of the kind of friends she was moving it. I asked her if her friends repeat clothes, she said sometimes. So, I told her by the time she is of my age, she will realize that it was the most stupid thing to do. She should be thinking about her future and probably making investments or saving towards realizing her dreams/purpose instead of wearing new clothes to classes.
The bottom line is she wanted acceptance. To be looked upon with admiration by others as the lady that never repeated clothes to class. Please, how does that contribute to her future? To her, her self worth was dependent on acceptance. I think Kylie Jenner is more sensible than her as she made something out of her life at a young age to be a billionaire. Some may say she has an advantage, no doubt about that, but many have the same advantage and never leveraged on it, let alone building upon it to become a trailblazer. Another young lady that I love is Marsai Martin. She is the youngest person to executive produce a studio film ever in Hollywood. She didn’t just fold her hands for things to happen, she was confident to pursue her dream, and it came to life. Young ladies, you are precious! Don’t waste your worth away. Realize who you are and pursue your purpose as a strong lady. The road wouldn’t be all easy, but the ultimate end is worth it.
We all have times when we doubt our worth. I am a lady with a small frame. Growing up, I used to pray to grow tall because I didn’t like the fact that I was short, but I got to a stage in my life after high school that I stopped praying such a prayer. Looking back now, I can confidently say, my stature has never stopped me from achieving anything in life. I realized earlier that I am valuable and carry myself with that understanding.
It didn’t limit me from winning a beauty award I was nominated for in my college in the university, it didn’t limit me from being nominated for another beauty award during my NYSC (National Youth Service Corps) among a lot of other ladies. There must have been something that was seen in me to have warranted these nominations despite being short (that normally doesn’t fit into the requirement of a beauty contestant); it is called WORTH. I always attracted the kind of guys I liked (God-fearing, focused, etc.), interestingly most of my suitors were the “basketball-tall” kind of guys, but I can’t marry all (PS: there were important qualities I was looking for in a guy). They weren’t just looking into dating but wanted marriage. *winks*
Worth is a quality that commands esteem or respect; merit. (thefreedictionary.com)
•Do you know, you are worth more?
•Do you know, you are fearfully and wonderfully made?
God made you with reverence ensuring no mistake was made and immense admiration for you to be a delight. If God Almighty has this knowledge of you, why would you feel less about who you are or make another creation to make you feel less?
Psalm 139:14 (ESV)
I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.
Extract your identity from the Word of God. You must agree with who God says you are! God says that you have been made in His exact image-likeness. You, my friend, have been created in the very image of God, your Creator. You are His exact representation upon planet earth today. In God’s esteemed and perfect opinion, you are “very good.” The powerful truth is this: You will never know yourself until you know yourself in God. You will never stand amazed at all of the gorgeous facets and intricate details that are uniquely yours until you stand amazed at your Creator and all that He is!
As a lady, a man does not define your worth, but rather because of your worth, you contribute to a man. That was why God made you and I, to be a fit helper to our men. A helper is someone who contributes to the fulfillment of a need or furtherance of an effort or purpose. So if you are in a relationship with a guy who does not appreciate your worth, the chances of abuse are high.
Genesis 2:18 (ESV)
Then the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.
Proverbs 31:10 (DBT)
Who can find a woman of worth? for her price is far above rubies.
If the worth of a thing is unknown, abuse is inevitable. It means besides people abusing you, you can abuse yourself if you do not know your worth. If you do not know your worth, someone will put a tag on you. You are of great value, and as such, you must conduct yourself the same by living by principles that match your worth. If you look at the royals, there’s a way they conduct themselves because of their heritage. Don’t dress like Nicki Minaj and expect people to treat you like Michelle Obama. Look at materials of high value in the world, e.g. diamond, pure gold, gems, you do not see them around carelessly; they are guarded either in banks, or in show-glasses with securities.
Stop chasing after a guy for acceptance because gems do not search for people to own them, but its rather the other way. People go after gems. That’s why the bible says he that finds a wife, not a wife that finds a husband. As a lady who knows her worth, you will attract the right kind of partner. When a man knows your worth, he’ll match your self-worth and not dictate it to you. Don’t sell yourselves short.
Refuse to compare yourself with others, their achievements, personal disciplines, or income. If you do, it is a decision of sure and certain defeat. It also means you do not accept your uniqueness, God’s identity of you, and your process.
See what the bible says about you:
Song of Solomon 4:7 (ESV)
You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you.
Proverbs 32:25 (ESV)
Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come.
Isaiah 62:3 (NIV)
You will be a crown of splendor in the Lord’s hand, a royal diadem in the hand of your God.
Proverbs 31:26 (NIV)
She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
Psalm 139:13–16 (ESV)
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance, in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them.
Ephesians 2:10 (NIV)
For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.
1 Peter 2:9 (KJV)
But you are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light.
1 Corinthians 12:27 (ESV)
Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it.
1 Corinthians 6:20 (KJV)
For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.
1 Corinthians 15:10 (NIV)
But by the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace to me was not without effect. No, I worked harder than all of them — yet not I, but the grace of God that was with me.
Isaiah 49:16 (BSB)
Behold, I have inscribed you on the palms of My hands; your walls are ever before Me.
2 Corinthians 6:18 (NIV)
I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.
If you have made mistakes in the past that made you lose your worth, forgive yourself, and make a stand to build your self-worth again. Knowing our identity makes us brave to face the world. It turns our face, unashamedly towards God. Constantly do these three things to assert your worth:
·Surround yourself with people of worth, people who affirm you.
·Speak to yourself, affirming what God says about you. You can stand before a mirror and begin to speak what the word of God says. You can affirm the above scriptures.
·Seek to build your self-worth continually. Do not become complacent.
As a lady of worth, be confident, do not be lazy, be industrious, be a giver, bring pride to those attached to you, speak and conduct yourself wisely, move with grace and live by the motto of the boy scout; “be prepared always” (Proverbs 31).
Remember this: God sees you as worthy and chosen. God deliberately chooses the weak and those who feel ill-equipped in their abilities because when they overcome and step out, God is glorified. You are worth more than you think!
THE END
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