I DO! Role of the Wife
Kicking off from the role of the husband, this time we look at the role of wives.
1. Companionship
In the beginning, God saw Adam with the animals and observed there was something he was missing, “companionship”. Companionship is the state of spending time with someone or having someone to spend time with — the state of having a companion or being someone’s companion (dictionary.com).
Genesis 2:18
Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
The wife should be a friend to her husband to fill in the space of loneliness in his life (To be his emotional comfort, physical comfort, etc.). A shoulder that has his best interest through life. She must enjoy spending time with him. Both the wife and husband must infuse fun in their marriage. When couples stop having fun, it is dangerous for their marriage as staleness sets in.
2. Helper
Besides filling the position of a companion, God made the woman for Adam to become his helper. To help him achieve his purpose, taking stress off him in certain aspects of life so he can have time for purpose and survive longer. This is one of the principal roles of a wife. There is a limit to how far a man can go in life alone. There is a popular African quote that says “if you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” Statistics have also proved that marriage is associated with longer survival. It shows again that a 48-year-old married man has a 90% chance of reaching 65 years while a 48-year-old single man has a 60 % chance of reaching the age of 65.
3. Respecter
Ephesians 5:33
Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
1 Peter 3:1
Wives, respect and obey your husbands in the same way. Then the husbands who do not obey the word of God will want to know God. They will want to know God because their wives live good lives, even though they say nothing about God.
Ephesians 5:22
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
On the list of what a man needs from a woman, respect tops that list. And it is what God commands the wives to their husbands. Respect for the husband is what is love is to the wife. It means to speak highly of, hold in high regard. Husbands want their wives to support, always cheer them, and coach him when necessary as he goes out into the world every day.
Wives are admonished to submit to their husbands, as to the Lord. The submission comes with a criterion, “as unto the Lord”. Submission is not blind obedience and it does not infer that the wives are inferior to their husbands. It is not a means to lose your identity, see Proverbs 31, the virtuous woman had her identity. It is not a means to be used or abused. If your submission is not unto God don’t do it. Also, if your husband is placing a demand on you to sin against God, object.
***Do not marry a man you cannot submit to, else you will be frustrated in the marriage. If you are a strong woman, marry a man that is stronger than you.
4. Counsellor
God has blessed women with intuition. As such wives are to fulfill the role of counsellors to their husbands. But accuracy in counsel will be enjoyed if the wife is spirit-filled as she is partnering with the Holy Spirit to perform the role. Sarah counselled her husband and God supported her. Abigail was able to save the life of her husband due to her discretion while Pilate’s wife admonished him not to kill Jesus. So also, was King Belshazzar advised by his Queen, which helped him have the interpretation he was looking for.
Genesis 21:22
But God said to Abraham, “Be not displeased because of the boy and because of your slave woman. Whatever Sarah says to you, do as she tells you, for through Isaac shall your offspring be named.
1 Samuel 25:3, 33
3Now the name of the man was Nabal, and the name of his wife Abigail. The woman was discerning and beautiful, but the man was harsh and badly behaved; he was a Calebite. 33Blessed be your discretion, and blessed be you, who have kept me this day from bloodguilt and from working salvation with my own hand!
Matthew 27:19
Besides, while he was sitting on the judgment seat, his wife sent word to him, “Have nothing to do with that righteous man, for I have suffered much because of him today in a dream.”
Daniel 5:10–11
10 The queen, hearing the voices of the king and his nobles, came into the banquet hall. “May the king live forever!” she said. “Don’t be alarmed! Don’t look so pale! 11 There is a man in your kingdom who has the spirit of the holy gods in him. In the time of your father he was found to have insight and intelligence and wisdom like that of the gods. Your father, King Nebuchadnezzar, appointed him chief of the magicians, enchanters, astrologers and diviners.
5. Homemaker & Value-adder
Proverbs 31:10–31
Wives are supposed to be homemakers, who care for her own home and family, preparing their meals, she must put her hands to use (not being lazy), be sensitive to seasons, be a giver, and someone who exudes royalty (do not become unattractive after marriage, the virtuous woman adorns herself with silk and purple implying she sees to it that she looks good) and speaks with wisdom.
Proverbs 18:22
He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favour from the LORD.
Wives are supposed to add value to their husband’s lives. Her presence in her husband’s life should bring him favour from God (advancement). She must see to this, by praying for him among other things.
As a wife, make yourself happy and make your husband happy. A good wife makes a good husband! God and a good wife are the two best things a man can have. And remember, you are both on the same team, the greatest marriages are built on teamwork.
THE END
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